When this book came out in 1994, co-parenting was a somewhat radical idea. I am currently trimming and updating this title, turning it into an ebook and perhaps an app. But if you’re going through a divorce now, don’t wait for the revised edition. Although twenty years has elapsed, the ten “keys” stand the test of time. For example, you still need figure out how to get past the hurt (#1, “heal yourself”), to “act maturely” (#2), to “listen to your children” (#3) and to “respect each other as parents” (#4) which happens when you start seeing your former spouse as your coparent, not simply your “ex.” And even though we have come a “long way” in redefining men’s and women’s capabilities, most divorcing couples still need to “step out of your gender roles” (#8). Mom needs to know how to mow the lawn and Dad can’t be squeamish about discussing his daughter’s period. Taken together, the keys will help you move on and enable all of you adjust to your new family apart.
–Judith Wallerstein, PhD, author, Second Chances and The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce