This book not only debunks widely held myths about parenting, it makes the important points about child and adult development. Different ages require different styles of parenting. As your children’s needs change, you must change, too, shifting from “Parent Protector,” a role well-suited to parenting young kids to “Parent Chum” when your children are in middle school and then to “Parent Realist” as they inch toward adolescence. Each chapter contradicts conventional wisdom–for example, about “in-charge parents,” “over-involved mothers and under-involved fathers,” and the need for “consistency”–and helps you understand how these ideas became accepted as truths. The good news is that you don’t have to be held hostage by dated notions of parenting. As in all our books, Ron offers you concrete strategies for avoiding the pitfalls and improving the connection to your child.
- “This book stands out from the crowd.”
- “The book is full of lively examples and basic concepts, so you’ll have plenty of new ideas to replace the tired myths. Whether Taffel is elaborating on the idea that no good discipline method is effective for more than a few days or reminiscing about bribing his daughter with cookies, the points raised in his work are refreshing and reassuring. This is one parenting book that works equally well for teens and toddlers.”
- “[Taffel’s] provocative thoughts on guilt, bribery, networking, rewards, parent-blaming, and spirituality are in themselves worth the cover price.”
– Letty Cottin Pogrebin, author, Growing-Up Free and Family Politics